The ReFraming System - Parenting Troubled Teens

Not all therapists are alike. The ReFraming Parenting Program is based upon principles that work extremely well with therapists who have training and experience in family and relationship issues. We suggest you look for a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT). An exceptional site through which you can search for a therapist in your area is www.therapistlocator.net.

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ReFraming Treatment - The System

The founders and developers of SIM's ReFraming Parenting Program include professionals in residential staffing, teachers, therapists, doctors, etc. They possess years of experience in the treatment and education industries, and have joined together to simplify the approach to behavioral education. Their system expands from core categories of interpersonal behavior and communications (see below), and is called the "ReFraming System." (The information, names, and processes herein are not all-inclusive, but are nonetheless protected by laws of proprietary ownership.)

     Responding
     Interacting           Core categories of interpersonal behavior and communication
     Achieving

Overview

Using the ReFraming Model as a reference point, all levels of discipline, as well as our expressions of care and concern, are immediately influenced by our responses to people, situations, and limits. If we are unable to respond appropriately, it is highly unlikely that we will be sufficiently disciplined and caring to work effectively with others. In other words, poor response habits inhibit our ability to interact effectively, and ultimately prevent achievement at a higher level of performance.

The inability to be caring and disciplined, compounded with poor responding skills, prevents people from achieving (and eliciting) value-based performance. Even worse, it leads to extremely poor problem solving skills. Authority figures who function in such an ineffective state often resort to authoritative rule to satisfy their anxiety with regard to those around them. Sadly, this begins a "vicious cycle," in which those under such rule depart from performance based upon values. Instead, demands for obedience, backed up by threats of punishment, become the authority figure's crutch.

The ReFraming Parenting Program teaches a variety of responding skills, processes, and methodologies. The ability to overcome problems in this area opens vast interactive and achieving opportunities. The product of these opportunities is more powerful, fulfilling, and stable relationships, as well as the ability to solve problems more effectively.

The ability to interact in a healthy, disciplined manner is a stronger driving force in integrating with healthy peer groups than anything else. And our ability not only to achieve goals, but to have a healthy perspective of what constitutes achievement, becomes a product of value-based performance.

Note

Even though Responding principles are merely the first level of the ReFraming System, most traditional treatment programs don't extend nearly as deep as we do into strengthening your child in this area. Usually, they employ superficial techniques to elicit obedient responses, but fail to help the child discover patterns of response-driven crises, which, with proper insight, can lead to strength where there was once weakness. By ignoring powerful responding principles, your child is stifled when it comes to interactive development, and never gains a healthy perspective of true achievement.

To compound this problem, many treatment programs fail to bring the entire family system into the solution. If you seek additional treatment help beyond the ReFraming Parenting Program, and would like to consider programs aside from SIM's Insight Academy or Beyond Boarders, may we suggest two things:

     1. Before placing your child in out-of-home treatment, make sure you understand ReFraming concepts yourself. Then, make sure the treatment program does.

         Although we don't list third-party treatment programs, the professionals at www.caring4youth.org, and www.teenplacementservice.com, can assist you in researching all treatment options. Contact them and explain what you are looking for. Be especially clear on your expectations regarding concepts that correspond to the ReFraming System. But don't stop there. Research the organization itself. Interview the staff members who will care for your child. Find out if they understand the principles of strength, and movement toward value-based performance. Then, contact the program's state licensing authority and ask for a reference. Remember, it's your child's life, your money, and your hope that is on the line. Do your research.

     2. If you do not have a local therapist for your child or your family, you may want one. As a matter of fact, if you do not have a therapist of some sort, you may not qualify for the ReFraming Parenting Program's $1,500 money back guarantee. A therapeutic professional is a valuable part of your local treatment team. More importantly, if you are truly committed to finding solutions, your therapist can help the troubled child, as well as the entire family, move toward greater health and strength. We suggest that you find a therapeutic professional who understands Family Systems Theory. Obviously, if you can locate a local therapist who is also familiar with ReFraming concepts, and the ReFraming Parenting Program, that would be helpful.

         Remember, not all therapists are alike. Many have been trained exclusively in individual or intrapsychic issues. We recommend you look for a therapist who has experience and training in family and relationship issues. We suggest you look for a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (LMFT). An exceptional site through which you can search for a therapist in your area is www.therapistlocator.net.

     3. You may also wish to enlist the services of an educational consultant who is a member of the IECA. These professionals possess vast resources and experience to assist you in all issues involving troubled teens. They are also bound by a strict code of ethics which provides you with confidence that they continually act in your best interest. Their fees are reasonable, and they are able to provide you with insight and time-saving experience that can save you money, time, and heartache.