Philosophy - The ReFraming Parenting Program

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Key to Parent Help & Teen Solutions:
Value-Based Performance

The ReFraming Parenting Program helps people learn how to pursue and achieve value-based performance. Value-based performance is a level of self-mastery that exceeds simple obedience. It is based on the premise that
individuals are in control of their values. Therefore, they are ultimately in true control of their behaviors.

Demanding obedience may result in behavioral change in the child, but does not foster a shift in values. The child conforms, but does not truly change internally. In other words, she fronts. The authority figure feels successful because all of the "bad" is placed in a nice little box. But the box is seething, waiting for a more convenient time to explode.

Who loses in this scenario? The answer is simple: both the parent and the child. The child has complied, but not grown. The parent has punished in response to a symptom or event, yet has failed to find an effective, long-term solution.

This is often the result of ineffective out-of-home treatment placement (treatment centers, boot camps, specialty schools), with tens of thousands of dollars spent, hopes dashed, relationships of trust broken, and when it comes to your child, valuable time and opportunities lost.

Keeping the Family Together

The ReFraming Parenting Program seeks to keep the family system intact, reframe itself, and become powerful. Parents use unexpected and powerful methodology, motivating children to move toward value-based performance. It is not easy, but the lasting rewards are worth the effort.

If you think you are too weak to do this, think again. There is amazing strength in a caring, disciplined parent. We simply help you to discover and "ReFrame" your strength, and become a catalyst of change in the lives of your children and others around you.

You, as the parent, become a manager of growth, change, and responsibility. Your child becomes a manager of self. Problems are solved. Relationships grow.

In the ReFraming Parenting Program the parent is taught to be the director of the treatment team. Solutions are created in the society of the family, involving local therapy, religious involvement (if applicable), community service, local academia, etc., all supported through insight and involvement from SIM, SIM forums, and SIM coaching.